How to become a nice person. Be pleasant to talk to. Be pleasant in conversation

How to make a good impression on others, easily establish contacts, find friends and please the opposite sex? Detailed Guide how to be a nice person.

While everyone has the right to be their own person and express themselves, there are basic ways that anyone who wants to improve their relationships with others can take advantage of. A better impression on others and a great reputation can help you in networking, career development, and personal relationships.

1. Be pleasant in conversation

1.1 Treat others with respect and be polite to everyone you meet. This means respect your friends, strangers, and most importantly, respect yourself! If you act judgmental or dismissive towards other people, they are likely to return negative emotions to you. Friendliness and respect will help you make friends faster.

Communicate kindly and calmly with strangers, calmly ask for favors, respond directly, and don't forget about "please and thank you."

Remember that everyone you talk to is human too. Just because you pay someone to serve your table doesn't give you the right to be rude; treat them the way you would like to be treated.

As J.K. said. Rowling, “It is easier to see a person’s true nature by how he treats his subordinates rather than his peers.”

1.2. Be confident. People like to be around someone who is confident without being arrogant. Be confident in who you are without stepping on toes. An adequate level of confidence is knowing that you are a great person, but there is always someone better than you.

If you constantly criticize yourself and are unhappy with who you are, you run the risk of people thinking the same way about you. After all, if you don't like yourself, why should others like you?

The other side of the coin is just as bad - be too self-confident, and others will think that you are so self-liking that you are not trying to please someone else. The goal is a sense of satisfaction, not excessive pride.

1.3 Be honest, but do it carefully. It is especially important to be honest with your friends and people who ask for your advice. People can usually easily tell who is frequently lying and insincere; No one likes insincere people. The people you want to communicate with must have a low tolerance for liars.

If someone asks, “Does this make me look fat?” (yes, it's a cliché, but it's a classic example), comment carefully, trying not to offend the person. If you know a lot about fashion, tell me why. They will trust you, knowing that you are honest and helpful.

There are tricks to being open with someone who isn't asking for your advice. Commenting something like this could cause either a reaction of approval or offense, depending on the person, so be aware of the situation. You'll likely want to avoid making negative comments, no matter how true, with people you don't know or aren't friends with.

1.4 Listen. There is not a single person on this planet who receives too much attention (at least not a single person who is not being followed by the paparazzi). When we humans start a conversation, most of us want someone to be genuinely interested in what we're saying—the other person's participation isn't that important. Don't think you're boring! You make the other person feel good about themselves.

It's important to listen actively, though. If someone talks and talks about himself effective way washing his dog, looking away does not mean being a good listener. Try to participate fully in the conversation - with your eyes, nodding, commenting and asking questions, the position of your body - you should be completely focused on it.

1.5 Ask questions. A big part of good conversation (and when you listen) consists of asking questions. A person leaves a master of communication after a conversation, feeling good and not realizing that he did not learn anything from the person, because he was talking all the time. Be that master. Ask who, why and how. The other person will feel appreciated and will start going into detail, which will take all the pressure off of you. And he will like you.

Let everything have an “open ending”. If Julia from the office says: “Damn, I’ve been sitting on this stupid Powerpoint for hours,” insert yourself into the conversation! Ask her what she does, why it takes her so long, or if she was looking for more information. Even something as basic as a Powerpoint can help start a good conversation where Julia is the center of attention.

1.6 Call people by name. One of the rules successful book Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People says to use the person's name in conversation. The sound of our name excites a part of the brain that sleeps with all other sounds, and we like it. Our names are our identity, and talking to someone who uses them makes us feel validated. So the next time you talk to someone you know, discreetly insert their name. Chances are that he will feel a connection with you that he didn't have before.

It's easy to do. Most obvious way– add a name to the greeting. “Hey Robert, how are you?” sounds more personal than “Hey, how are you?” And if you and Robert are close enough to say, “Hey, Robin Bobbin! What's up man?" - that will work too. Besides greetings, you can also insert a name almost anywhere. At the beginning of a conversation: “Do you think this would suit my desk, Robert?”, or simply comment: “Robert, you are very funny.” Robert will feel as if you are best friends.

1.7 Know your audience. Chances are you know people from different social groups. To please high school queens, you have to do things a lot differently than you do with engineering students. So know who you're dealing with. What do they like? What do they value? What are they interested in?

If you want to be genuinely liked (being popular and being liked by everyone are not the same thing), you're in luck: all people usually like the same qualities. Reliability, honesty, warmth and kindness, according to recent surveys, are valued most (across all types of relationships), followed in importance by openness, intelligence and a sense of humor.

1.8 Watch for backlash. You can ask all the questions you want, be very polite, say only the right things, and still people will not react to it. If every time you approach Vanya urgently needs to answer the phone, take the hint. Spend your resources on someone else. This is bound to happen – you can’t please everyone. It's important to try, but it's also very important to know where to put your effort.

In a relationship you have to give and take. If you're always the one who puts in the effort and tries to be nice and friendly, take a closer look at the situation. If there is an explanation for this (the other person is going through a hard time, working 60 hours a week, etc.), then you will have to be patient for a while. But if they always have time for others but not you, leave. You can't be friends with everyone.

1.9 Make someone laugh. Everyone likes a person who can lighten the mood and make you laugh. A good sense of humor can help you a lot. If people know you like to joke around and have a good time, they'll want to join in. It's also a great way to be friendly because people know what to say (they want to be liked just as much as you do) - they can make jokes too! Everyone is happy.

If sometimes people laugh at you, that's good! If you can laugh at yourself, that's a plus. This will show that you are an open person and do not think only about your image - these are two very good qualities. And research shows that if you get into an awkward situation and laugh about it, people will like you more and trust you—you will become a real person in their eyes.

2. Master nice language body

2.1 Don't forget to smile! You will radiate positive energy and can improve the mood of everyone around you. Even if you don't feel happy or feel very depressed, the muscles involved in smiling can trigger a feeling of lightness and happiness.

Think about something good or moments from your past that made you laugh to bring out a genuine smile. People will think, why are you smiling?

It takes more muscles to frown than to smile - and that's it good reason! Everyone should smile, not frown.

2.2 Open up. The fact is that everyone wants to be liked. All. It's simple logic - the more people like you, the easier your life will be. Since everyone is fighting the same battle, help them out a little. Be open to communication. Smile, open your arms and put down your phone. The world is before you. What will come to you if you let him in?

Think about the people you would like to be friends with. Chances are you won't use the adjective "gloomy." If you want to make it easier for you to find a friend, make sure you project positive vibes. Let your body be relaxed, get involved in what is happening around you and notice people. In fact, it will become twice as easy.

2.3 Make eye contact. Have you ever talked to a person while their eyes wandered around the room but never looked at you? It's a disgusting feeling - as soon as you notice it, you want to shut up and see if it's even noticed. Don't be that person. If someone is getting too carried away, it's okay to look away (you don't want to play a staring contest), but if they're talking on topic, give them your attention. You'd like it too!

Some people have problems with eye contact - they simply don't make eye contact. If this applies to you, try to trick yourself and look at your nose or eyebrows. People tend to lose their minds if you don't look at them, so fool them and yourself by looking at their orbital ossicles.

2.4 Mirror their movements. This known method create a subconscious connection between you, mirroring and repeating the movements of the interlocutor, so that you both are in the same pose, with the same facial expression, weight distribution, general position bodies and so on. Try to play with this during a conversation - the imaginary “sameness” can help you. However, you should do this subconsciously, don't overdo it - you might get too carried away!

This technique works well with peers, not with elders. Recent studies have shown that a negative effect can occur - coldness, etc. - if two subjects are in an inappropriate environment (talking about money, problems with work, etc.). Save it for a group of friends you want to get close to, not your boss.

2.5 Show the difference. Chances are, at some point in your life, someone has emphasized the importance of keeping your shoulders back, holding your head high, and squeezing your hand tightly when greeting someone. While this is fine for some situations (like a job interview), it won't help you get liked or make friends. Your body should be relaxed. Show that you are not challenging your interlocutor to a duel.

Think about how you say hello. In that video where Bill Clinton and Nelson Mandela met (two people who have the right to think of themselves as important), both showed themselves to be different - friendly and helpful to each other, using their free hand for extra touch , smiling. They show that they respect and like each other - this will help you like them.

2.6 Use the force of touch. People need other people in order to survive and in order to be happy. Children who lack touch do not thrive. The same thing happens in adult life! If you want to create a stronger connection with someone, find reasons to touch them. Of course, within acceptable limits! Touch an arm or shoulder, or even high-five someone. Small moments turn into connections when you add touch to them.

Think about someone coming up to you and saying, “Hi! How are you?" Now imagine that same person coming up to you and saying, “[Your name]! How are you?" The second is better, isn't it? Use it. It won't cost you anything.

3. Think about it

3.1 Love people. Let's face it, the easiest way to get people to like you is to make them like you. It's not that difficult anymore, is it? Sure, you've been around someone who didn't care whether you were there or not. But you were also in the opposite situation - with people who made you feel needed and were happy to have you. What do you like best, even if you can't explain why?

You can't expect people to like you if you can't say the same about yourself. Chances are you like the people you want to like (why else would you care about their opinions?), so let them know that! Smile when they enter the room. Talk. Make comments about what they mentioned last Wednesday to let them know you listened. Small things will tune them into your sincerity.

3.2 Be positive. Everyone wants to be around someone who radiates so much energy that they light up the entire room. The opposite is also true - no one wants to be near Princess Nesmeyana. To get people to like you, be positive. This means smile, be enthusiastic, happy, look at everything in an optimistic light. You probably have an example to follow.

This behavior should be around the clock. It will be difficult for you to radiate positivity if your soul is heavy. You need to train your brain to make some changes - and positive thinking will be one of them. Try to always be optimistic, even if you are alone; so you will quickly get used to it.

Know when to sympathize. There is a special level of connection between those who complain. If you are discussing with your employees how terrible your new boss, it will bring you together, but if that’s all you do, only negativity will be associated with you. Rarely complain and only comment, never start a conversation with a complaint.

3.3 Think about yours strengths and find out how you can manifest them. What talent or character trait do your friends love? Show them to the world! People are drawn to those who have passions and abilities. This makes us useful and interesting. Whatever it is, fly your flag proudly.

If you're a good singer, take the stage on karaoke night and entertain everyone. Are you a good baker? Bring treats to the office. Do you draw? Invite a group to your exhibit or simply hang your painting in the family room. Let everyone see your personality and get to know you better.

3.4 Most importantly, don't forget to be yourself. It's impossible to please everyone - your fake identities can play tricks on you cruel joke at some point in life - but you will receive the approval of those who are important and with whom you have much in common.

People like authenticity, so don't change yourself so much that you feel uncomfortable with the changes. Pretending may alert those who respond. Let all your words and actions matter. If you want to be liked, then you have good intentions and everything will be fine.

3.5 Know that people are only momentarily impressed by appearances. They like sincerity. So, for now, that designer bag and those perfect abs have won a few fans, but it won't last long. Of course, it's tempting to think that being attractive will make people like you, but only in one sense. If people find out that you are a liar, they will run away from you and won't care what you look like.

Recent studies have asked people what qualities they think other people look for in friends or relationships. Money, appearance and status ranked fairly high. But when asked what they valued, they answered honesty, warmth and kindness. Society tells us (and it's not true) that looks and money are more important than anything else, but deep down you know that's not true.

It is important to maintain hygiene. People won't want to hang out with you if you smell like you just walked into a manure farm. Even if you have the character of the son of Mother Teresa and Jim Carrey, you will be treated lukewarmly. So take a shower, brush your teeth, look in the mirror before going out and go out with a smile.

3.6 Acknowledge that you feel vulnerable. The desire to be liked leaves you at the mercy of others. Leaving your comfort zone will be a challenge for you. The actions you take will scare you. This is good. This is a challenge to yourself. This is how you will develop. If you still feel like yourself, you are only building your character by improving it. It can be scary, but it's worth it.

There is a difference between wanting to be liked and needing to be liked in order to feel happy. Your opinion of yourself should not be based on the opinions of others; so you will be offended very quickly. But if you feel comfortable and just want to be well received, that's worthy of respect. People will see it and react. The fear will go away very quickly.

3.7 Control your weaknesses. Most people don't like people who can't face their shortcomings. If you say things like, “It's okay...good enough for me,” or constantly talk about how fat or ugly you are, people will notice that you don't like yourself. Your personal negativity should not spread to others. So leave it at the door. It's not good for you and it's not good for your friendship.

Imperfections are the feelings and behaviors you show when you are unhappy with yourself. If you feel uncomfortable, it ruins the mood of the entire room and many people won't want to deal with it. Don't be afraid to appear modest or arrogant. Say what you really think. You have value. We all have it.

3.8 Know that you can control your thoughts. Negative thinking can be learned and just as easily forgotten; no one says, “Oh my God, my child is so negative.” If you have problems with optimism, fortunately, you are the one who can help you! Your brain is plastic and can be trained. You need to gather your courage and do it.

The easiest way to start is to stop. Stop negative thinking. When you find yourself thinking negatively about yourself, don't finish the thought. Replace it with something more positive and realistic. You will feel better. Turn “I'm fat” into “I'd like to lose some weight. How would I do this? and the thought will flow in a different direction. So get started!

3.9 Don't be concerned about other people's prejudices. We know that confidence appeals to everyone, and not caring what others say about you has the same effect. When you start presenting yourself, people will notice. Think about the guy at a party who is "peacocking." He wants everyone to notice his masculinity. It's unattractive. It's disingenuous and, let's be honest, sad; he doesn't think he's good in himself. Don't be this guy.

Whether you're a nerd, a hipster or a jock, it doesn't matter. If people think your love of glitter polish means you're an idiot, well, they're wrong. If they think your veganism is stupid, so be it. Even funny. People will judge you, so let them. They can think whatever they want. This shouldn't worry you.

4. Develop pleasant habits

4.1 Be friendly and kind. Do you know why shy people are treated poorly? Because people think that they are cold and indifferent. These are two qualities that frighten and repel. So be the complete opposite! Warmth and kindness are highly valued in society - this means that you think about the interests of the individual and want to do what is best. Who wouldn't like it?

Start making random good deeds. Do something for others, even if you don't know them. Hold the door when entering or leaving a building, help a stranger who has dropped something, encourage the group to take a photo of them if they are seen trying to do so. This type of selflessness inspires others to do the same in return—not just for you, but for other people in their lives.

4.2 Be an extrovert...to a certain extent. Generally speaking, people like some degree of openness. This makes sense: we all want to talk and be sociable, and hanging out with extroverts reduces the risk of awkwardness. If you're sitting at a table not participating in a conversation, you might as well be somewhere else. Cast your vote! Let him be heard. How else will people know you are valuable?

However, if you know you can't be talked over, you'll need to calm down a bit. Everyone loves a good conversationalist, but no one wants to spend time with someone who won't let them get a word in edgewise. If you made the last five comments, back up a little. The second person does not necessarily have to intervene in the conversation, maybe he needs an invitation. Find out his opinion so you can share in the pleasure of the conversation.

4.3 Don't be clingy. People like nice people, not people who would die to be liked. If you constantly compliment them and follow them around, you won't get what you want. They will see you as an annoying mosquito that needs to be swatted away. Try not to be needy.

If you pay attention, you will see clues. If someone doesn't answer your calls, only communicates with you when they need something, don't try too hard - and if you're constantly begging them to spend time with you, you might be clingy. Although you have good intentions, despair is not attractive. Back off and see if they come back.

4.4 Ask for favors. If you've ever heard of the Benjamin Franklin Effect, you know what it's all about. It turns out that we often make decisions based on our own behavior. If you do something nice for someone, you will like them more. If you offend someone, you will like them less. It's all about cognitive dissonance. So ask for a favor - if the person helps you, they might like you even more.

The point is that we subconsciously look at our behavior and ask ourselves what you did. Why did we lend this friend our favorite coffee cup? Well... probably because you like him. It's funny, but deciding that we like someone is the same as actually liking the person.

4.5 Keep your promises. Make sure you can handle all your responsibilities. They're called "responsibilities" because you have a responsibility to try to complete a task, so don't back out at the last minute. If this cannot be avoided, let everyone involved in the task know that you will not be able to complete it. This can be annoying, but at least they will know what to expect and adjust their schedule as necessary.

Whether you're cooking dinner or finishing up a project, it's important to keep your friends and co-workers in the loop. Whether it's an email saying everything is fine or a note apologizing for the delay, people will appreciate it. Not knowing can be exhausting, even if the project is completed on time and to the highest standard.

4.6 Stand up for your beliefs, but don't preach them. To be liked, you must be a person. Nobody will argue with this. To be a person is to have beliefs, opinions and standards. Express them! They are part of you. If we were all the same, life would be unbearably boring. Insert your two cents. You can contribute something interesting.

Standing up for your beliefs is one thing, preaching is another. If you disagree with someone's comment on a topic, great! Find out more. Talk about it. Have an intelligent discussion about your various points vision. You will both learn something. Instead of shutting someone down, telling them they are wrong and preaching your ideas, open your mind and try to understand their point of view. Maybe you will understand something too.

4.7 Know that the most important thing is that everyone is happy. Humans are sensitive creatures. If someone you know starts arguing about how the Easter Bunny is the lost son of Jesus Christ and you want to please him, don't make a scene about how stupid it sounds. Let the person speak. It's the same if someone says, "I really think I'm like this. good man. I mean, my actions are so humble and selfless.” This is not a reason to get angry and express everything you think about this person.

Again, this rule only applies if you want to please these people. After a certain amount of comments about what a great person he is, you may well not be able to contain yourself. But if you're new to a group, sometimes it's better to just go with the flow.

4.8 Give compliments. Everyone is looking for approval. We want to be told that we are beautiful, smart, funny, and so on. We can never have enough. So when someone comes up to us and says something nice, it can lift our spirits throughout the day. Think about it: some people never hear anything good about themselves in their entire lives. Change it. This will take two seconds of your time.

“Be sincere. Don't walk up to someone and tell them you like their sweatpants. Let your words have meaning. Say something to the person himself. It could be something as simple as "This great idea" Often the little things are easier to believe and carry more meaning. “You are so funny” after a joke or: “Your article made me think.” Whatever you say, make it matter. You will most likely receive the same answer.

4.9 Try. Most people don't flutter around like butterflies. We would like some attention, but we don't know how to get it. We all feel vulnerable in social situations, and we want to minimize this feeling. Realizing that we all feel the same will help you realize that you can try and it won't seem weird - it will be a brave thing to do. Everyone else “wants” but feels awkward. If there is someone you would like to become friends with, start talking to them. This might be exactly what he's been waiting for.

It is impossible to be liked if you are an empty place. Often we feel as if no one likes us, when in fact others have no feelings about us - simply because you have not proven yourself. Next time you're in a group of people you want to like, show your personality. Try to get a place in this group. Make a joke, smile, start a normal conversation. This is where it all begins.

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A very simple way to be liked is to ask someone to help you. Try to find a request that matches his skills or interests. This will not only show that you are thoughtful, but also that you respect his authority in the matter.

Nice people are those who like people. People feel if they are liked. If you want to make someone like you, focus on something you like about them. If you don't like them...maybe it's not that important to like them.

Dress up. Don't hide behind clothes and hair. Wear clothes that suit you and, if possible, add color to your wardrobe. If you think about your appearance, it will help you feel better inside too.

Be open. If you look sad or angry, people will understand that on some level and won't want to talk to you. Even if you're angry or upset, think about all the things that could make you happy about the situation, and try to save your difficult thoughts for time with close friends and family.

Don't brag. Braggers are unattractive. You won't look better; your behavior will look as if you are waiting for applause. It's not cute.

Warnings

Even if you notice something in yourself that needs to be changed, do not forget to be proud of yourself. Your personality is amazing, there is something in you that can be shown without embarrassment, and everyone has shortcomings, and they can be corrected.

Don't be fake. People will notice the awkwardness of your mannerisms and realize that you are just acting. You need to really believe in what you are doing, otherwise things will turn out even worse. First impressions are important, however, it may seem insincere that you care so much new person in your life, although in reality this is not the case. Behave the way you would like to be treated.

Remember that it is impossible, and not necessary, to please everyone! There will always be people who you will upset and who will upset you, for better or for worse. Know when to walk away, be respectful and handle conflicts maturely. Don't blame yourself for mistakes and always be confident in yourself.

Don't try to convince others that they like you. If you list your best qualities, I might think that you are arrogant. Let people see for themselves how good you are.

Don't try to obviously please everyone. People see this and stop communicating with you.

How to change and become a better, better person is of interest to many modern people striving for new heights. If you are not kind and always ready to help, then it is unlikely that you will be able to achieve satisfaction with life, true inner happiness.

How to become a good person, where to start.

Plus, it keeps your self-esteem up. high level, therefore it is beneficial not only to others, but also to the person himself. The path to becoming a difficult one is associated with a huge amount difficulties. First of all, you will have to break yourself, your previous habits, and also reflect a lot.

Psychologists are sure that it is impossible to answer this question unequivocally.

Each person has his own idea of ​​who is considered good

What is said does not always really matter in practice, since those criteria that are named become completely insignificant in comparison with others.

This is why you cannot be good to everyone. What is acceptable in one society is completely unacceptable in another.

For example, in a company of people who drink, a non-drinker will be a black sheep, and it is unlikely that he will enjoy any respect. And if he refuses to drink, then, at a minimum, sidelong glances will be directed at him.

But in the company of inveterate healthy lifestyleists, a person who drinks alcohol even moderately will be considered bad. Therefore, you need to look at the situation.

It cannot be said that a good person always adapts to the standards of others. He may well impose his demands, but he does it carefully and unnoticed by others.

“They don’t interfere with someone else’s monastery with their own rules.” But any charter to some extent provides for how to become a leader and set your own rules.

Any charter provides for how to become a leader and set your own rules of life!

A true leader will always appear good in the eyes of the majority even though he does not try to adapt

It is not at all necessary to always strive for leadership, but it is imperative to be responsible (and this is one of its main features)!

If you try to generalize very roughly, which is quite difficult, given the diversity of social norms.

A good person has the following character traits:

But this is not all that is needed for self-development.

First you need to develop reflection.

If the question of how to become a good person is spinning in your head, this is already very good sign. This means that this quality has been developed to some extent.

But we need to make sure there are no extremes. Reflection and introspection are not self-examination and self-flagellation.

Willpower training is the path to self-improvement

A person can spend days doing self-analysis, but still not come to anything. Why? Because in a state of severe emotional shock, the ability to think soberly is reduced by 70%.

Reflection and self-analysis should mean calmly pondering the answer to the question of how to improve oneself.

Here are some rules for developing reflection:

1. Need to read books on self-development, while simultaneously asking the question: how does this apply to me? Or maybe I have this too?
2. You need to ask yourself“What would you do? Am I perfect? All people are imperfect, and you cannot be completely good. Therefore, you cannot criticize yourself for this. The advantage of this question is that the person admits that he has now made a mistake and outlines a route for self-development. But at the same time he does not criticize and gives himself the right to do wrong.
3. It is important to train willpower.

How to become a good person tomorrow. Instructions

Where to start to achieve success and not stop there. Do the right things today to become a better person tomorrow!

Here's how to become a good person tomorrow!

• No need to hurry. Self-development is an endless process. This doesn't mean you should give up trying to improve because of it. If a person hopes that a point will come when he considers himself good and rushes towards it, nothing will happen.
• Only one skill needs to be trained at a time. Don't try to cover everything at once.
• You need to count your good deeds. This is the most universal advice. After some time, there will be a desire for the number to become even larger. But without willpower, a person will even forget to count.
• You should give people positive emotions. If a person considers an action good, but others do not consider it as such, then such an action is worthless. Therefore, it is necessary to look at the emotions of the other.
• It is important to train empathy. This must be done in order to recognize the most subtle emotional notes of other people.

How to become a good person according to the Bible, Christianity, Orthodoxy

The main Christian rule is: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” This main principle which you need to follow to become a good person. How?

First you need to start being interested in other people, and everything will become clear

Christian qualities are useful for self-development.

It is also very important not to become proud of your good deeds and take them for granted.

Humility is a very necessary Christian quality. You cannot be proud of your “goodness” for the slightest reason, because in life you cannot always be good. In any case, a person is capable of sinning, and if reflection is not developed, then he will not even know about it.

It is very important to pray. The texts of prayers in Orthodoxy and Christianity, in general, are structured so that a person understands what to strive for.

How to become a good person according to Islam?

To become a good person according to Islam, you need to be very a large number criteria.

Here are some of them:

1. Faith and fear of God. All human virtues that are not supported by faith in Allah will have no meaning after death, although in real life, naturally, the benefit from them will be invaluable.
2. Reason and intellect. Allah orders every Muslim to try to grow intellectually, because this faith itself is based on a rational understanding of one’s path in life.
3. Physical strength. Naturally, it is needed in order to protect the weak and help them, and not to satisfy selfish whims.
4. Success in business. Entrepreneurship is not only an opportunity to make money, but also to provide other people with work and money, and to give clients what they need. So this is a good cause, and history knows many successful entrepreneurs who profess Islam.
5. Respectability. The appearance of a Muslim must be excellent and comply with Sharia law.
6. Benefit to society. The system is simple - a good person is one who is useful to other people.
7. Ability to live in a family with all the qualities necessary for this: responsibility, the ability to earn money, raise children, etc.

How to change and become a good person from an egoist

First you need to figure out who an egoist is. This is a person who does something only for himself, and nothing for others.

It is not at all necessary to become an altruist and deprive yourself of all possible pleasures for the sake of others, but you need to learn to find a balance

Everyone is selfish to some extent, and that's okay. But if you constantly deny yourself, then the quality of help to others will be low.

To stop being selfish and become a good person, you need to focus on doing good. You can start with a simple thing - being attentive to others. You need to learn to guess their needs.

When communicating with a person, you should ask yourself from time to time: “what does he want?”, “What is he missing?”, and give it to him.

How to be a good person to your friends

Each social group has its own norms and laws. Therefore, there is no universal advice on how to become a good person to your friends.

How to become a good man for a girl

Be good guy- this is a whole art, and several recommendations cannot fully describe it.

Here are some tips for guys:

1. Be honest. If you constantly lie, then not only the girl will get discomfort, but also the guy himself. Everyone wants a trusting relationship, and this is a mutual thing. With the right attitude towards the information received from each other, the relationship will develop on its own.
2. Positive emotions. You need to be positive and under no circumstances overload the girl with problems. At the same time, it is necessary to openly express own feelings. You should be more optimistic, then you won’t have to hide the negative in order to please a girl.
3. Need to remember everything she says. And brains will develop, and relationships will strengthen. Very often, quarrels happen because the guy has a bad memory. He really doesn’t remember well, but at the same time the girl thinks that he doesn’t need her. It is an incredibly pleasant feeling when another person remembers some little thing that was voiced six months, or even several years ago.
4. Romance is the art of creating positive emotions and turning routine into a fairy tale. You need to master this craft, and then the girl will be happy with the guy.
5. To compliment. Only the perfect compliment comes spontaneously, sincerely. The main thing is not to be shy about giving compliments.

How to become a good person for a child

To become a good person (father or mother), you need to have authority, and not impose it on your son or daughter. How? It is necessary to explain your position, and not force the child.

Under no circumstances should you adhere to one of these parenting styles:

1. Dominant hyperprotection. This is when a parent controls the child in everything, imposes his way of life on him, forces him to do what he says. Leads to criminal behavior, alcohol and drug addiction, or suicide. The reason is simple - a child needs love, and if it is given in bad company, then he goes there. And if there is no person at all who is capable of giving love, then this leads to suicide.
2. Permissive hyperprotection. Here the parent is too protective of the child, fulfilling his slightest whims. Leads to the fact that the latter grows up as an egoist and the complete opposite of a good person.
3. Hypoprotection. This is when parents do not pay attention to the child at all or try to buy off love.
4. Accidental parenting. A parent is highly dependent on his mood. If the mood is bad, he punishes for nothing, if he is in a good mood, he rewards for nothing. Such upbringing creates severe trauma and even increases the risk of schizophrenia in a son or daughter.

How to quickly become a good person

It is impossible to quickly become a good person, because this route is life-long. The pace of progress along this road directly depends on the efforts a person makes. This is what willpower is for.

Control of emotions and actions on inappropriate behavior of people is very important quality good man.

The ability to control your actions and react flexibly to a situation is most important to gain respect from other people

How to become a good communicator

It is necessary to control your own emotions and not worry when communicating. If a person develops all these qualities, he will be considered a good communicator.

You can’t rush to develop yourself, because becoming a good person is not easy. To do this, you need to take into account many factors, change your character and attitude towards other people.

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The art of conversation is a skill. Sure, some of us have natural talents and charm, but nothing is lost and you can learn how to interview so that you are good company. How to be pleasant in communication?

Listen more than you talk.

The secret of conversation is not in talking, but in listening to the other person. People like it and are willing to spend more time with you! Believe me, you will be surprised at your results!

Think about what you are talking about.

Try to always consider what you say - it is very important to you. Can you listen to what comes out of your mouth? If people are going to take you seriously, you must be able to control yourself and your expression.

Check your facial expression.

Smile + a friendly look - this combination will help you look more successful and positive.

Be ready.

If you are going to a planned event, prepare neutral conversation topics, such as the latest exhibition in the city, a film premiere, an upcoming concert.

If you don't know the people you are going to talk to, then try to interest the person. For the group conversation topic, select various topics, which may be of interest for most of the conversation.

Every person has the right to their opinion.

Yes, yes, we all have our own opinion and should not underestimate it, even if you disagree with something... Try to understand the person who shares his opinion.

Do not engage in speech or interrupt the conversation.

Question: “Are you finished?” are conversational disasters that indicate that you are not interested in the topic.

If someone interrupts you during a conversation, do not continue on the matter until you are prompted to. A stranger will no longer remember what you talked about. Every conversation interruption is unpleasant, so try to turn off your phone if you are in a group.

Don't interfere with your privacy.

We've all met the person who tells you their life story in five minutes. You know why her boyfriend left her, that her dog is dying of cancer, that she's worried, or getting rid of her job. Maintain your confidentiality, your painful topics and experiences, then you will not feel despair and embarrassment. People enjoy positive things and topics of conversation, don't forget that. Speak with dignity and positivity. Give compliments. And you will never be a bad companion.

It's no secret that people who are pleasant to talk to achieve much more than those who are uptight, gloomy, and unsociable. After all, it’s easy to come to an agreement with the first ones; you want to spend time with them, communicate, talk, discuss situations. Everyone wants to make a good impression on others, but how to achieve this? Today we will tell you how to become pleasant or pleasant in communication.

How to be a nice person

The art of being pleasant is primarily expressed in communicating with other people.

• When speaking, always be polite, respect the other person’s opinion, and do not interrupt him. If you disagree, express your thoughts correctly, without judgment. Don't neglect other people. Remember to use polite words: thank you, please, excuse me. It is very simple, but many people forget even this.
• If you are an unrestrained and hot-tempered person, then work on your reactions. Learn to express your thoughts calmly. Don't raise your voice at other people, don't get angry. Meditation practices or consultation with a psychologist will help you.
• In a conversation, do not talk only about yourself, your benefits or problems. Learn to listen to other people. The best communicator is the one who knows how to listen. Sincere interest, a desire to help others - this is what people desperately need in modern society. If you learn to hear and listen to others, you will become a favorite of others.
• Don't forget about body language. When communicating, turn your body towards the interlocutor. Use open gestures - open palms, arms. Sit relaxed and confident. Look at your interlocutor, nod, express interest. And of course, don’t forget about your smile!
• When communicating with a person, call him by name. In this case, the interlocutor will warm to you.

These are just some tips that will help you become a pleasant person to talk to. We also recommend reading the following articles.

treat others and be polite to everyone you meet. This means: respect your friends, strangers, and most importantly, respect yourself! If you act judgmental or dismissive towards other people, they are likely to return negative emotions to you. Friendliness and respect will help you make friends faster.

• Chat with strangers kindly and calmly, be patient when asking for favors, answer directly and do not forget about “please” and “thank you”.
• Remember that everyone you talk to is human too. Just because you pay someone to serve your table doesn't give you the right to be rude; treat them the way you would like to be treated.
  • As J.K. said. Rowling, “It is easier to see a person’s true nature by how he treats his subordinates rather than his peers.”

Be confident. People like to be around someone who is confident without being arrogant. An adequate level of confidence is knowing that you are a great person, but there is always someone better than you.

• If you constantly criticize yourself and are unhappy with who you are, you run the risk of people thinking the same way about you. After all, if you don't like yourself, why should others like you?
• The other side of the coin is just as bad - be too self-confident, and others will think that you are so yourself that you don’t try to please anyone else. The goal is a sense of satisfaction, not excessive pride.

Be honest but do it carefully. It is especially important to be honest with your friends and people who ask for your advice. People can usually easily tell who is frequently lying and insincere; No one likes insincere people. The people you want to communicate with must have a low tolerance for liars.

• If someone asks, “Does this make me look fat?” (yes, it's a cliché, but it's a classic example), comment carefully, trying not to offend the person. If you know a lot about fashion, tell me why. They will trust you, knowing that you are honest and helpful.
• There are tricks to being open with someone who isn't asking for your advice. Commenting something like this could cause either a reaction of approval or offense, depending on the person, so be aware of the situation. You'll likely want to avoid making negative comments, no matter how true, with people you don't know or aren't friends with.

Listen. There is not a single person on this planet who receives too much attention (at least not a single person who is not being followed by the paparazzi). When we humans start a conversation, most of us want someone to be genuinely interested in what we're saying—the other person's participation isn't that important. Don't think you're boring! You make the other person feel good about themselves.

• It's important to listen actively, though. If someone goes on and on about the most effective way to wash their dog, looking away is not the same as being a good listener. Try to participate fully in the conversation - with your eyes, nodding, commenting and asking questions, the position of your body - you should be completely focused on it.

Ask questions. A big part of good conversation (and when you listen) consists of asking questions. A person leaves a master of communication after a conversation, feeling good and not realizing that he did not learn anything from the person, because he was talking all the time. Be that master. Ask who, why and how. The other person will feel appreciated and will start going into detail, which will take all the pressure off of you. And he will like you.

• Let everything have an “open ending”. If Julia from the office says: “Damn, I’ve been sitting on this stupid Powerpoint for hours,” insert yourself into the conversation! Ask her what she does, why it takes her so long, or if she was looking for more information. Even something as basic as a Powerpoint can help start a good conversation where Julia is the center of attention.

Call people by name. One of the rules of Dale Carnegie's successful book How to Win Friends and Influence People is to use the person's name in conversation. The sound of our name excites a part of the brain that sleeps with all other sounds, and we like it. Our names are our identity, and talking to someone who uses them makes us feel validated. So the next time you talk to someone you know, discreetly insert their name. Chances are that he will feel a connection with you that he didn't have before.

• It's easy to do. The most obvious way is to add a name to the greeting. “Hey Robert, how are you?” sounds more personal than “Hey, how are you?” And if you and Robert are close enough to say, “Hey, Robin Bobbin! What's up man?" - that will work too. Besides greetings, you can also insert a name almost anywhere. At the beginning of a conversation: “Do you think this would suit my desk, Robert?”, or simply comment: “Robert, you are very funny.” Robert will feel as if you are best friends.

Know your audience. Chances are that you know people from different social groups. To please high school queens, you have to do things a lot differently than you do with engineering students. So know who you're dealing with. What do they like? What do they value? What are they interested in?

Monitor the response. You can ask all the questions you want, be very polite, say only the right things, and still people will not react to it. If every time you approach Vanya urgently needs to answer the phone, take the hint. Spend your resources on someone else. This is bound to happen – you can’t please everyone. It's important to try, but it's also very important to know where to put your effort.

• In a relationship you have to give and take. If you're always the one who puts in the effort and tries to be nice and friendly, take a closer look at the situation. If there is an explanation for this (the other person is going through a hard time, working 60 hours a week, etc.), then you will have to be patient for a while. But if they always have time for others but not you, leave. You can't be friends with everyone.

Know how to make people laugh . Everyone likes a person who can lighten the mood and make you laugh. A good sense of humor can help you a lot. If people know you like to joke around and have a good time, they'll want to join in. It's also a great way to be friendly because people know what to say (they want to be liked just as much as you do) - they can make jokes too! Everyone is happy.

Master pleasant body language

1. Do not forget smile ! You will radiate positive energy and can improve the mood of everyone around you. Even if you don't feel happy or feel very depressed, the muscles involved in smiling can trigger a feeling of lightness and happiness.

   • Think about something good or moments from your past that made you laugh to bring out a genuine smile. People will think, why are you smiling?
   • It takes more muscles to frown than to smile—and for good reason! Everyone should smile, not frown.

2. Open up. The fact is that everyone wants to be liked. All. It's simple logic - the more people like you, the easier your life will be. Since everyone is fighting the same battle, help them out a little. Be open to communication. Smile, open your arms and put down your phone. The world is before you. What will come to you if you let him in?

   • Think about the people you would like to be friends with. Chances are you won't use the adjective "gloomy." If you want to make it easier for you to find a friend, make sure you project positive vibes. Let your body be relaxed, get involved in what is happening around you and notice people. In fact, it will become twice as easy.

3. Make eye contact . Have you ever talked to a person while their eyes wandered around the room but never looked at you? It's a disgusting feeling - as soon as you notice it, you want to shut up and see if it's even noticed. Don't be that person. If someone is getting too carried away, it's okay to look away (you don't want to play a staring contest), but if they're talking on topic, give them your attention. You'd like it too!

   • Some people have problems with eye contact - they simply don't make eye contact. If this applies to you, try to trick yourself and look at your nose or eyebrows. People tend to lose their minds if you don't look at them, so fool them and yourself by looking at their orbital ossicles.

4. Mirror your interlocutor's movements. This is a well-known way to create a subconscious connection between you by mirroring and repeating the other person's movements so that you are both in the same pose, with the same facial expression, weight distribution, general body posture, and so on. Try to play with this during a conversation - the imaginary “sameness” can help you. However, you should do this subconsciously, don't overdo it - you might get too carried away!

   • This technique works well with peers, not with elders. Recent studies have shown that a negative effect can occur - coldness, etc. - if two subjects are in an inappropriate environment (talking about money, problems with work, etc.). Save it for a group of friends you want to get close to, not your boss.

5. Show friendliness and respect. Chances are, at some point in your life, someone has emphasized the importance of keeping your shoulders back, holding your head high, and squeezing your hand tightly when greeting someone. While this is fine for some situations (like a job interview), it won't help you get liked or make friends. Your body should be relaxed. Show that you are not challenging your interlocutor to a duel.

   • Think about how you say hello. In that video where Bill Clinton and Nelson Mandela met (two people who have the right to think of themselves as important), both showed themselves to be different - friendly and helpful to each other, using their free hand for extra touch , smiling. They show that they respect and like each other - this will help you like them.

6. Use the power of touch. People need other people in order to survive and in order to be happy. Children who lack touch do not thrive. The same thing happens in adult life! If you want to create a stronger connection with someone, find reasons to touch them. Of course, within acceptable limits! Touch an arm or shoulder or even a high five. Small moments turn into connections when you add touch to them.

   • Think about someone coming up to you and saying, “Hi! How are you?" Now imagine that same person coming up to you and saying, “[Your name]! How are you?" The second is better, isn't it? Use it. It won't cost you anything.

Think about it

1. Love people. Let's face it, the easiest way to get people to like you is to make them like you. It's not that difficult anymore, is it? Sure, you've been around someone who didn't care whether you were there or not. But you were also in the opposite situation - with people who made you feel needed and were happy to have you. What do you like best, even if you can't explain why?

   • You can't expect people to like you if you can't say the same about yourself. Chances are you like the people you want to like (why else would you care about their opinions?), so let them know that! Smile when they enter the room. Talk. Make comments about what they mentioned last Wednesday to let them know you listened. Small things will tune them into your sincerity.

2. Be positive . Everyone wants to be around someone who radiates so much energy that they light up the entire room. The opposite is also true - no one wants to be near Princess Nesmeyana. To get people to like you, be positive. This means smile, be enthusiastic, happy, look at everything in an optimistic light. You probably have an example to follow.

   • This behavior should be around the clock. It will be difficult for you to radiate positivity if your soul is heavy. You need to train your brain to make some changes - and positive thinking will be one of them. Try to always be optimistic, even if you are alone; so you will quickly get used to it.
   • Know when to sympathize. There is a special level of connection between those who complain. Talking to your co-workers about how terrible your new boss is will bring you together, but if that's all you do, you'll only be associated with negativity. Rarely complain and only comment, never start a conversation with a complaint.

3. Think about your strengths and find out how you can show them. What talent or character trait do your friends love? Show them to the world! People are drawn to those who have passions and abilities. This makes us useful and interesting. Whatever it is, fly your flag proudly.

   • If you're a good singer, take the stage on karaoke night and entertain everyone. Are you a good baker? Bring treats to the office. Do you draw? Invite a group to your exhibit or simply hang your painting in the family room. Let everyone see your personality and get to know you better.

4. What's most important, don't forget be yourself. It's impossible to please everyone - your fake identities may play tricks on you at some point in your life - but you will gain the approval of those who matter and with whom you have a lot in common.

   • People like authenticity, so don't change yourself so much that you feel uncomfortable with the changes. Pretending may alert those who respond. Let all your words and actions matter. If you want to be liked, then you have good intentions and everything will be fine.

5. Know that people are only impressed by appearances for a moment. They like sincerity. So, for now, that designer bag and those perfect abs have won a few fans, but it won't last long. Of course, it's tempting to think that being attractive will make people like you, but only in one sense. If people find out that you are a liar, they will run away from you and won't care what you look like.

   • Recent studies have asked people what qualities they think other people look for in friends or relationships. Money, appearance and status ranked fairly high. But when asked what they valued, they answered honesty, warmth and kindness. Society tells us (and it's not true) that looks and money are more important than anything else, but deep down you know that's not true.
     • It is important to maintain hygiene. People won't want to hang out with you if you smell like you just walked into a manure farm. Even if you have the character of the son of Mother Teresa and Jim Carrey, you will be treated lukewarmly. So take a shower, brush your teeth, look in the mirror before going out and go out with a smile.

6. Admit that you feel vulnerable. The desire to be liked leaves you at the mercy of others. Leaving your comfort zone will be a challenge for you. The actions you take will scare you. This is good. This is a challenge to yourself. This is how you will develop. If you still feel like yourself, you are only building your character by improving it. It can be scary, but it's worth it.

   • There is a difference between wanting to be liked and needing to be liked in order to feel happy. Your opinion of yourself should not be based on the opinions of others; so you will be offended very quickly. But if you feel comfortable and just want to be well received, that's worthy of respect. People will see it and react. The fear will go away very quickly.

7. Control your shortcomings. Most people don't like people who can't face their shortcomings. If you say things like, “It's okay...good enough for me,” or constantly talk about how fat or ugly you are, people will notice that you don't like yourself. Your personal negativity should not spread to others. So leave it at the door. It's not good for you and it's not good for your friendship.

   • Imperfections are the feelings and behaviors you show when you are unhappy with yourself. If you feel uncomfortable, it ruins the mood of the entire room and many people won't want to deal with it. Don't be afraid to appear modest or arrogant. Say what you really think. You have value. We all have it.

8. Know that you can control your thoughts. Negative thinking can be learned and just as easily forgotten; no one says, “Oh my God, my child is so negative.” If you have problems with optimism, fortunately, you are the one who can help you! Your brain is plastic and can be trained. You need to gather your courage and do it.

   • The easiest way to start is to stop. Stop negative thinking. When you find yourself thinking negatively about yourself, don't finish the thought. Replace it with something more positive and realistic. You will feel better. Turn “I’m fat” into “I’d like to lose some weight; How should I do this? and the thought will flow in a different direction. So get started!

9. Don't be concerned about other people's prejudices. We know that confidence appeals to everyone, and not caring what others say about you has the same effect. When you start presenting yourself, people will notice. Think about the guy at the party who looks like a peacock. He wants everyone to notice his masculinity. It's unattractive. It's disingenuous and, let's be honest, sad; he doesn't think he's good in himself. Don't be this guy.

   • Whether you're a nerd, a hipster or a jock, it doesn't matter. If people think your love of glitter polish means you're an idiot, well, they're wrong. If they think your veganism is stupid, so be it. Even funny. People will judge you, so let them. They can think whatever they want. This shouldn't worry you.

Develop pleasant habits

1. Be friendly and kind. Do you know why shy people are treated poorly? Because people think that they are cold and indifferent. These are two qualities that frighten and repel. So be the complete opposite! Warmth and kindness are highly valued in society - this means that you think about the interests of the individual and want to do what is best. Who wouldn't like it?

   • Start doing random acts of kindness. Do something for others, even if you don't know them. Hold the door when entering or leaving a building, help a stranger who has dropped something, encourage the group to take a photo of them if they are seen trying to do so. This type of selflessness inspires others to do the same in return—not just for you, but for other people in their lives.

2. Be an extrovert... to a certain extent. Generally speaking, people like some degree of openness. This makes sense: we all want to talk and be sociable, and hanging out with extroverts reduces the risk of awkwardness. If you're sitting at a table not participating in a conversation, you might as well be somewhere else. Cast your vote! Let him be heard. How else will people know you are valuable?

   • However, if you know you can't be talked over, you'll need to calm down a bit. Everyone loves a good conversationalist, but no one wants to spend time with someone who won't let them get a word in edgewise. If you made the last five comments, back up a little. The second person does not necessarily have to intervene in the conversation, maybe he needs an invitation. Find out his opinion so you can share in the pleasure of the conversation.

3. Don't be clingy. People like nice people, not people who would die to be liked. If you constantly compliment them and follow them around, you won't get what you want. They will see you as an annoying mosquito that needs to be swatted away. Try not to be needy.

   • If you pay attention, you will see clues. If someone doesn't answer your calls, only communicates with you when they need something, don't try too hard - and if you're constantly begging them to spend time with you, you might be clingy. Although you have good intentions, despair is not attractive. Back off and see if they come back.

4. Keep your promises. Make sure you can handle all your responsibilities. They're called "responsibilities" because you have a responsibility to try to complete a task, so don't back out at the last minute. If this cannot be avoided, let everyone involved in the task know that you will not be able to complete it. This can be annoying, but at least they will know what to expect and adjust their schedule as necessary.

   • Whether you're cooking dinner or finishing up a project, it's important to keep your friends and co-workers in the loop. Whether it's an email saying everything is fine or a note apologizing for the delay, people will appreciate it. Not knowing can be exhausting, even if the project is completed on time and to the highest standard.

5. Stand up for your beliefs, but don't preach them. To be liked, you must be a person. Nobody will argue with this. To be a person is to have beliefs, opinions and standards. Express them! They are part of you. If we were all the same, life would be unbearably boring. Insert your two cents. You can contribute something interesting.

   • Standing up for your beliefs is one thing, preaching is another. If you disagree with someone's comment on a topic, great! Find out more. Talk about it. Have an intelligent discussion about your different points of view. You will both learn something. Instead of shutting someone down, telling them they are wrong and preaching your ideas, open your mind and try to understand their point of view. Maybe you will understand something too.

6. Know that the most important thing is that everyone is happy. Humans are sensitive creatures. If someone you know starts arguing about how the Easter Bunny is the lost son of Jesus Christ and you want to please him, don't make a scene about how stupid it sounds. Let the person speak. It's the same if someone says, “I really think I'm such a good person. I mean, my actions are so humble and selfless.” This is not a reason to get angry and express everything you think about this person.

   • Again, this rule only applies if you want to please these people. After a certain amount of comments about what a great person he is, you may well not be able to contain yourself. But if you're new to a group, sometimes it's better to just go with the flow.

7. Give compliments. Everyone is looking for approval. We want to be told that we are beautiful, smart, funny, and so on. We can never have enough. So when someone comes up to us and says something nice, it can lift our spirits throughout the day. Think about it: some people never hear anything good about themselves in their entire lives. Change it. This will take two seconds of your time.

   • Be sincere. Don't walk up to someone and tell them you like their sweatpants. Let your words have meaning. Say something to the person himself. It could be something as simple as “That’s a great idea.” Often the little things are easier to believe and carry more meaning. “You are so funny” after a joke or: “Your article made me think.” Whatever you say, make it matter. You will most likely receive the same answer.

8. Make an effort. Most people don't flutter around like butterflies. We would like some attention, but we don't know how to get it. We all feel vulnerable in social situations, and we want to minimize this feeling. Realizing that we all feel the same will help you realize that you can try and it won't seem weird - it will be a brave thing to do. Everyone else “wants” but feels awkward. If there is someone you would like to become friends with, start talking to them. This might be exactly what he's been waiting for.

   • It is impossible to be liked if you are an empty place. Often we feel as if no one likes us, when in fact others have no feelings about us - simply because you have not proven yourself. Next time you're in a group of people you want to like, show your personality. Try to get a place in this group. Make a joke, smile, start a normal conversation. This is where it all begins.

• A very simple way to be liked is to ask someone to help you. Try to find a request that matches his skills or interests. This will not only show that you are thoughtful, but also that you respect his authority in the matter.
• Nice people are those who like people. People feel if they are liked. If you want to make someone like you, focus on something you like about them. If you don't like them...maybe it's not that important to like them.
• Dress up. Don't hide behind clothes and hair. Wear clothes that suit you and, if possible, add color to your wardrobe. Thinking about how you look on the outside will help you feel better on the inside.
• Be open. If you look sad or angry, people will understand that on some level and won't want to talk to you. Even if you're angry or upset, think about all the things that could make you happy about the situation, and try to save your difficult thoughts for time with close friends and family.
• Don't brag. Braggers are unattractive. You won't look better; your behavior will look as if you are waiting for applause. It's not cute.

Warnings

• Even if you notice something in yourself that needs to be changed, do not forget to be proud of yourself. Your personality is amazing, there is something in you that can be shown without embarrassment, and everyone has shortcomings, and they can be corrected.
• Don't be fake. People will notice the awkwardness of your mannerisms and realize that you are just acting. You need to really believe in what you are doing, otherwise things will turn out even worse. First impressions are important, however, it may seem insincere that you care so much about the new person in your life when in fact you don't. Behave the way you would like to be treated.
• Remember that it is impossible, and not necessary, to please everyone! There will always be people who you will upset and who will upset you, for better or for worse. Know when to walk away, be respectful and handle conflicts maturely. Don't blame yourself for mistakes and always be confident in yourself.
• Don't try to convince others that they like you. If you list your best qualities, I might think you are arrogant. Let people see for themselves how good you are.
• Don't try to obviously please everyone. People see this and stop communicating with you.