As I wrote earlier, quarrels in the family are normal; for a person in his holistic form, this is a completely natural phenomenon. However, each person perceives conflicts in his life in his own way, according to his internal idea of them, which may be too biased towards them. You cannot react painfully to conflicts with people, this is too much moral cost, even when we are talking about scandals in the family, it is still worth being simpler. This simplicity should lie in the conclusions you need to draw after the scandal, when your head has cooled down and become cold, and you are able to reason rationally. All that needs to be done is to find the place where two EGOs collide, or three or more, depending on the scale of the scandal. It is this collision of unconsciously raging egoism that leads to thunder and lightning, just as the collision of clouds leads to the same, literally.
But all this needs to be understood and worked on in order to prevent a similar scenario in the future. You don’t want to constantly quarrel and swear, only because of dissatisfaction with your ideas about how another person should act, provided that you act as you want? I hope you are not supporters of tyranny in the family, because for a family in its normal sense, this is completely unacceptable, although people live like this, this life is far from happy. But in this article I am not going to focus my attention on the procedure for resolving family quarrels, but as the title suggests, we will talk about the spread of family quarrels to the outside world. I highly do not recommend doing this, knowing full well that many, especially women, do just that. Of course, you can discuss your family problems with some people who can help resolve them, these are mainly psychologists, and these should be professional psychologists, not interested in the conflict between the two sides.
In fact, no problems should be shared at all unless your goal is to mislead someone. But if you do it sincerely, telling everything about yourself, then you point out to other people your weaknesses. And they can take advantage of this. Of course, not all people will use this to harm you in some way. Let's say that the same psychologists will not use your problems and weaknesses against you. But many can do it. People, you know, are such creatures that it is not always possible to rely on them, even if they are your best friends. Any quarrel can reveal everything that is hidden in the depths of a person; the more emotional it is, the more sincere the person is in his explanations. Everything that he would not say in his right mind, he says emotionally, that is, unconsciously, and thereby points to everything that sits in him. Of course, sometimes you need to let off steam, because undigested food in the form of mental discomfort just begs to be released, but what is the price of such behavior? If you cry into your friend's vest, talking about your family problems, it is not a fact that she is using it for her own selfish, or rather selfish, purposes. After all, what is dangerous about a friend is that he knows a lot about you, you trust him and you have some stereotypes regarding friendship. But stranger, there is an outsider, I call such, first of all, those people who are not ready to bear responsibility for you.
If a member of your family, no matter who he is for you, husband or wife, parent or child, bears at least some responsibility for you, he is worth a thousand irresponsible friends and girlfriends. But when you complain to them, when you tell them about the negative behavior of a member of your family, you belittle their importance to their level, to the level of a stranger; moreover, you belittle yourself. Think about the meaning of any of your complaints, whether of a family nature or of any other nature, what you thereby show to other people. If, say, you work at a job that is terrible, the boss is a brute and treats you accordingly, then why don’t you quit, therefore, you yourself are no better? The same can be said about that member of your family who causes you dissatisfaction. Who do you discuss, judge and complain about to people who only pretend to care about you? Is it your husband, wife, child or parents, how can you discuss them with other people, how can you allow people who are more concerned with their own good than yours to touch your personal life?
I will answer you as - unconsciously, that's how you can do it, only without realizing that everything you identify with is part of your own nature. As I understand it, many of my readers don’t need to say again that the world inside each of us actually projects the world around us, because every second person will tell me that they know this and understand it. I won’t argue about the first one, you really can know that, but about understanding... Here you should think better, dear friends, maybe you’re just thinking in such a way that you understand something that you’ve heard somewhere before or have you read about this? How can a mother, say, who scolds her child in public, understand this and not understand that his behavior is the result of her upbringing, her attitude towards him, and essentially herself. And a husband or wife who scolds his other half and considers him or her a real piece of trash, do these people, who with their personal qualities have attracted the people corresponding to them, understand that they themselves are no better?
No, they don’t understand this, and therefore shift responsibility onto those who supposedly treat them incorrectly, but people treat you the way you allow them to do so, and if there is a person in your family who is negative for you, you became the reason his appearance. Of course, it’s difficult to accept this, I understand this perfectly well, I took it here and put everything on you, on those who read this article, and maybe it’s not very pleasant for you to read, but there is so much that allows you to understand about yourself, doesn’t it ? The issue of taking quarrels out of the public eye can be approached from different angles; the possibilities of human prudence are quite wide, you can always identify many aspects, from which you can then draw conclusions and develop a final concept in this regard. But no matter how you approach it, it will still turn out that you don’t need it, it’s not beneficial to you. Right or wrong, that’s not what we’re talking about, I’m not your priest, and I’m not going to tell you how to live. But I think each of you wants to live more efficiently, more colorfully and interestingly, and therefore you should know about those things that are worth observing for the sake of such a life.
You cannot show weakness, you cannot expose your wounds and show them to strangers, even best friends, especially to your best friends, who thereby actually hold you in their sights. If there is a problem in your family, if you have a scandal, you should solve it, not someone else. Why do you need consolation, why do you need this flattery, for which there is nothing behind it, why do you need other people to accept your weakness, do you really want to be weak, do you need pity and, like, understanding? Why do you need this infection, it will not allow you to keep the situation under your own control, it will not allow you to make decisions independent of anyone, you are actually destroying your freedom by taking the quarrel out in public. Why are you doing this, what do you ultimately want, think about it carefully before you give a pre-prepared banal answer to this question, because the deeper you delve into this, the faster you will come to the understanding, guided by which I am telling you now I'm telling you this. Isn’t it easier to think about any problem, especially a family one, from the point of view of your participation in it?
Like the fire triangle, any event in your life cannot happen without your participation, as well as a situation that leads to something. You may not be able to control other people, influence them properly, force them to do your will and behave in the way you want, but you can completely control the situation and yourself. I understand that the desire to change other people, to bring them into line with your ideas about the world around you, so that they ideally fit into your paradigm, is quite strong. You, of course, are a correct person, this is actually so, I say this without any sarcasm, because you must correspond to yourself and your interests. But other people don’t care about you, it’s not that they don’t want to be good for you, for example, in a family this desire can be quite sincere, they just cannot be ideal models for your understanding. And what do you expect from those to whom you dump your family problems, so that they help you correct your life, so that they undermine your husband, your wife, your children or your parents, what should they do?
In people's heads there may be a picture so unique in its form that the likelihood that it will ever be reflected in the external world is zero. The inadequacy of this picture, in principle, in itself is already a problem for a person, since, firstly, it makes his life, as it seems to him, inferior, and secondly, it deprives him of the opportunity to adequately respond to the conditions of the outside world. The only thing missing is to show others what your problems are, how inadequate and helpless you are, and this can be done by talking about the problems in your personal life. If a person tells me about problems in his family, intensely concentrating my attention on the sources of these problems that are not related to him. That is, on other people, circumstances and God knows what else, even on the mistakes of nature, I understandably look, first of all, at the shortcomings of this particular person. I'm not saying that everyone understands it the way I understand it, well, people feel your weakness, feel your vulnerability, feel your blood, you can put it that way when you tell them about your problems.
And if a person is smart, if he understands what I’m telling you here, then no matter who he is to you, the temptation to take advantage of the situation in his favor is too great for him. You see how many aspects can be identified in the information that is not for prying eyes and ears. In the Danish kingdom, everything is in full swing, this is the life position you should adhere to, this is a recommendation, not an instruction, if you don’t want to show your weakness and stupidity, stick to it. If you don’t care about this, you can talk to the whole neighborhood about how bad everything is for you, what an unhappy family and life you have in general. But in this way, you will not only give pleasure to so many people who are so afraid of other people’s happiness and so rejoice in other people’s misfortunes, but you will also give them the opportunity to take advantage of your weaknesses. Taking a quarrel out of public is a leak in your ship, both in the family ship, if the quarrel is family, and in your own, if you have a problem of a different kind, but it is connected with other people whom you consider guilty of it.
That is, this is a weak side in your personal qualities, which becomes the property of other people, which drowns you as a strong person, turning you into a victim. Here is another comparison that can be made, given the importance of information about negative aspects your life that allows to the outside world with all its egoistic components, enter your life. Any person in life looks for opportunities for himself, consciously or not, but he does it; it is natural for our nature, sharpened for survival. And you give people such opportunities by distributing information about yourself that is absolutely unnecessary for them, thereby giving them part of the power over their lives. Think twice next time before you make information about your family situation public, no matter who. we're talking about, to whom and what you are telling, think about why you are doing this and what it may lead to.
Not everything has to be bad, some people like to pour out their problems on each other, for them this is a kind of release, but as I wrote above, such release may have too high a price. For where there are people with their own problems, family or any other, there are also opportunities for other people. Whether they will use them or not, you cannot know, because someone else’s soul is, as we know, dark. But you and I know, being people who understand psychology, that every person is an egoist by nature, and if the question arises about his or your interests, the majority will choose their own interests, to the detriment of friendship and even kinship. So why give people opportunities, why open the door for them to enter your personal life, given the fact that they can do this without your knowledge, when they need it?
PHOTO-1L Are there statistics that would determine how many families have broken up due to the wife’s evil tongue, gossip and scandals that were brought to public view, made public and forever erased not only the sincerity in the relationship between the spouses, but also the opportunity to fix anything? after a public lynching opposite side. I think the numbers would be dismal.
The most interesting thing is that a simple negative discussion of a husband in a conversation with a friend, like disclosing secrets, also equates to a scandal.
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HORROR OF OUR TOWN: I’m going to work on public transport and listening to a strange conversation, consisting, it seems, of only short remarks, but involving in complicity and involuntary empathy all the passengers of a minibus stuck in a jam. Despite the fact that the woman sitting in the front seat says practically nothing, the picture of the conversation emerges as offensively obvious and recognizable. As always!
- Galya, hi, how are you?
- …..
- What are you talking about?!
-….
- What is he?
-…
- And you?
-…
- And what did he say?
-…
- No, well, can you imagine! Here you go, freak! And what did you say?
-…
- You're a fool! Three times a fool!
-….
- I can not talk. It really got on my nerves. So what now?
-…
- What a bastard!
-…
- I'm having a nervous breakdown. I can’t talk, I’m on a minibus….
For an hour, while we were stuck in traffic, a meaningful telephone conversation between two bosom friends continued in the same spirit. What were they talking about? Not hard to guess. It's all about the same thing. About yours, about women’s...
Wash dirty linen in public- disclose troubles, quarrels that concern only narrow circle persons The expression is usually used with negation as a call not to disclose the details of such quarrels (there is no need to wash dirty linen in public). (Directory of phraseological units)
Washing dirty linen in public is, of course, a tempting activity. Why? Yes, because at this moment you are not alone and have the right to count on sympathy, empathy, fleeting love, which you, apparently, lack in your family. Otherwise, why would you resort to the help of the hall?
But at least there is
THREE REASONS, for which “washing dirty linen in public” is categorically not recommended.
First of all, it's dangerous
Folk expressions carry a huge charge of the traditional ideas of our ancestors about good and evil and the moral grain of humanity and common sense. In mystical terms, this was expressed in their belief that evil person supposedly he could send misfortune to the owner of the house by pronouncing special magic words over the garbage from his home. By old superstition, damage to a person can be caused by nail clippings, combed hair, or any garbage from his home, so the rubbish was usually swept under the threshold and then burned in the oven. To wash dirty linen in public meant to bring disaster to your home.
This is how our ancestors motivated the need to hide from others the intimate side of their lives, that which concerned the person himself very closely, in order to exclude intrusion into his world, introducing pain, suffering and sadness into it.
Naive pagan protection from the evil eye, damage and slander can be explained by simple psychological motivations.
HORROR OF OUR TOWN: “One friend met a wonderful man, they got married and lived in perfect harmony, but he was a Jew. And another friend, when we met, said: I heard that Jews sometimes have a smell, tell me is it true? The friend replied that no, she had never noticed anything... The second one again persistently began to ask, “tell me, at least they are a little different and the skin smells different,” and the first friend, just to get rid of it, said, “maybe a little bit.” the second friend passed this on to her husband and he chopped up all the furniture in the apartment, leaving a note: “So that nothing Jewish smells to you.” The family broke up."
To wash dirty linen in public means to feel like a victim, whose sad image requires worship and veneration. BUT there is a huge risk of eventually becoming this victim. Bring disaster upon yourself in full. Only through the efforts of your own tongue. Because a thought is material, but a word spoken after a thought is doubly material.
The image of a victim is sometimes so attractive that a woman gladly dresses herself up in it and tells everyone left and right about how unlucky she is with her husband, how bad he is, and how she gets a daily nervous breakdown from this. Can you imagine? And you? And he? Here you go, you bastard!
“Call a person a pig, he will grunt” - this results in real negative programming.
By doing this, she, in principle, does not even suspect that she is completely cutting off her path to happiness, not being able to appreciate what she has.
“What we have, we don’t keep; if we lose it, we cry,” a proverb familiar to everyone comes in handy here. After all, when discussing our failure with others, we reinforce the negative, code it for repeated failure, and attach a label to it. And to your family life too. Because how can she really be happy with such a scumbag?
ADVICE: If you already dreamed of a prince, but somehow it didn’t work out, and your fantasies wither on the vine. I suggest not translating the good stuff. And direct them in a creative direction. Give your unlucky husband a new image. What if he “grunts” the way you would like him to? With your efforts and prayers, by the way, he can successfully move from complete failure to genius. There would be a desire. And love, of course. Because without love, all this will be just a bitter pill from complete disappointment in life.
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My old friend, with whom I often discussed my family affairs, once very wisely and firmly set my mind straight with one single phrase. When I tried to complain about my friend and was about to play the usual broken record of an exposing monologue, she said:
- If he is so bad, why do you live with him?
- Why should I throw him away because of scattered socks? – I was surprised.
- And if you don’t want to leave him, you sleep with him, you spend his money, you turn his cheek for a kiss, then why are you disgracing him in front of people? How you see him is how he will be!
At that time, I even remember that I was offended by her for her harshness.
By the way, she never said a single bad word about her husband. Although he for a long time didn't work and seemed a bit strange to me. “Don’t wash dirty linen in public!” - a useful and for some reason forgotten by many folk anti-crisis method of dealing with garbage in family life was the motto of her life. What was behind the door of their house, what they talked about, how they dealt with difficulties, what they promised each other, who took out the trash can and washed their socks - this remained a secret behind seven seals. But when a friend became seriously ill and spent three months in the hospital, her house did not collapse, her children did not go hungry, she was not even fired from work, because he took her home transfers and carefully visited the hospital. Twice every day, morning and evening.
And then I envied her kindly and realized what her secret was. The secret of family happiness is to accept your life option with love and gratitude, regardless of what friends and acquaintances may say about it. In essence, what difference does it make to you what they think about you, how they will react to the ups and downs of your family history, if you live the main minutes of your life not with them, but with HIM. Your closest person. Be good to him, love him, take care of him and meditate so that your bright dreams about his genius will someday come true. And who knows, what if... they will come true someday.
Secondly, litter is an indicator of your defeat
Someone wise said that every woman deserves the man who is next to her.
It is she who allows him to be a parasite, a rude person, an alcoholic, a loser or a hero, a researcher, a breadwinner, a support.
She, like a tuning fork, tunes the family flute and sets the weather in the house.
Why do some women in good form Does a discussion with friends of the person closest to you count? Why do they more often say not the nicest things about him? Are they looking for excuses? Do you want to look taller?
This probably makes them seem better than him.
But, by and large, it only confirms their own bad choice. Or the inability to establish relationships.
“Oh, leave it! Tired of it! – the reader will say, who is already fed up with responsibility for everyone and everything. “Again, it’s all the woman’s fault.” He's lazy - she didn't kick him off the couch. He loves to drink - she brought it! He walks - his wife could not satisfy him. How many dogs can you hang on her!”
And our reader will begin to dream about a fairy-tale man who knows how to make decisions and be responsible for his actions, a breadwinner and protector, a calm and balanced embodiment of her best hopes, “so that he doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, and always gives flowers...” and further according to the text of the famous song . Fill your head to the top with these fantastic dreams and wait for a miracle. At the same time, discussing and condemning the men around them for their laziness, rudeness, stupidity, stinginess and other shortcomings. Everyone is discussing it: neighbors, acquaintances, girlfriends. Why is she worse? Why not discuss strangers! But this will never and cannot happen to her, because she is waiting for the real thing. And dreams to the fullest!
He dreams and dreams, but in the end he gets something completely different. And so, an average person, who, by the way, has the same vices that were so pleasant to discuss with others.
Thirdly, washing out the dirty linen is not a panacea.
Well, you scratched your tongues, relieved your soul, received a car of sympathy and a tank of solidarity tears. You fixed in your brain the image of a scoundrel who is no match for you, threw it out... And then you came home, and there he was sitting!
Darling sits on the porch
With an expression on your face
Expresses that face -
What to sit on the porch
Ditties
What will you do? After all, you have to continue to live with him... But is it necessary?
Some are in a hurry to dot the i's and cut the Gordian knot in the standard trivial way. "Out of sight, out of mind". Divorce seems to be a panacea, a way out, the only way to improve the situation. The “new” contender for a hand and heart is seen almost as an icon that one can pray for. But in close contact with living together with him, it may turn out that he, in fact, is not particularly different from the old one. And in something even worse.
“I exchanged the awl for soap,” the woman thinks and falls into another depression. He puts a cross on himself and a black mark on the entire male race. Now you can grind your tongue without getting tired. And not only with friends to discuss them all.
What's the point? How long will it last?
All the same, one day you will want something normal, human, humane. Love, after all. And the woman will again tune in to a miracle and begin to wait.
But you can wait a long time, a very long time, so that life will pass. When the clock insistently rings about the need to solve a problem, when you are already over 30, 40, 50..., then another organ in the brain turns on, and the bar is lowered. And the dreamer thinks in a more realistic way about the most basic marriage to the most ordinary neighbor boy, with whom she once sat at the same desk or studied at the same institute. And he finds himself completely without foreign gloss, wealth and other coveted masculine virtues. Ordinary. As everybody.
At first, she will diligently attribute non-existent virtues to him. Composing epithets for your unearthly love and imagining your meeting with him as a completely extraordinary situation, reminiscent of a scene from a love story. He will complete the details, shade out inconsistencies, and turn a blind eye to obvious flaws. And then he will come to terms with it. Well, at least there is one!
Unlucky, but your own!
Well, it’s not a sin to discuss something unlucky with your friends. Like just now. Bitter, but like everyone else.
And the familiar cart will roll through the putrid swamps of yesterday blah blah blah. Round. And so all my life... Do you like this perspective?
I do not like!? That's what I don't like!
So whenever I want to tell someone that my husband is completely incapable of putting his damn socks back in place, I put a big barn lock on my mouth.
And imagine! He finally learned to throw them in the laundry basket. Wow! Less than twenty years have passed...
In a family like underwater boat: all problems must be extinguished here, inside the ship. I opened the hatch and the boat was flooded. It’s not for nothing that they say: “Don’t wash your dirty linen in public.” When you last time complained about your husband? Yesterday to mom? Or today on the phone to a friend? The reasons why we complain about our life partners are everyday and quite banal: he doesn’t do anything around the house, he earns little money, he didn’t notice my new hairstyle, I suspect him of cheating... In principle, we could easily live without a complaint and solve the problem that arose between themselves. But no! What about talking? What can a banal discussion with a friend of your husband or a complaint to your mother about this “animal” lead to? That's right, to parting. Want to? Always think about the consequences.
When emotions overwhelm
There are women women. Apparently nature has “handed us” the priceless gift of “washing the bones” of everyone and everything, and especially men. The emotional component is so strong that even if you want to remain silent about something, it bursts out on its own, and after a couple of minutes you are already standing, wondering how you managed to let it slip so quickly.
Arrange beloved Scandal for every reason is not an option! You are a smart woman, and you meet a man at home with a smile and without pretensions. But it’s boiling inside there! I really need to meet with a friend and discuss this topic! Moreover, mind you, if he gave you a couple of diamonds and arranged an unforgettable night of love, we are in no hurry to brag. Suddenly they jinx it. But sharing negativity is welcome. The anger is boiling! What could this lead to? Well, first of all, your man is “shit” from head to toe, and by you. And after this there is a feeling that he is really bad and unworthy of you. The opposite reaction is also possible: Isn’t he disgusting who threw mud at my loved one? That is you. And here self-respect is already lost, conscience begins to torment, and feelings of guilt begin to haunt. Agree, the feeling is not pleasant.
So what? I thought friend about the negative things you heard? Yes, the same thing! He is disgusting, you are even more disgusting and dangerous. You can discuss and denigrate her in the eyes of others in the same way. Therefore, it is better to keep negative statements about your significant other and your relationship to yourself. And if it’s “boiling”... pour yourself some tea, sit in an empty room and have an internal angry dialogue with your loved one. Tell him everything you think. Then imagine how he responds with a speech of justification and apology, and begin to cool down. By the way, nothing prevents you from thinking through and preparing a real dialogue during your virtual dialogue, if there really is a problem between you that needs to be solved. The man most likely has no idea that he hurt you. Explain to him, but without boiling emotions. You will definitely be able to come to an agreement!
Feel sorry for yourself...
Husband offended- and then immediately cry into your mother’s vest, describing this scoundrel in all the details? Mommy, of course, will regret it and will take your side. Moreover, he will begin to agree with the accusations, remember all his past sins, and add fictitious ones. And all this out of sincere intentions to help her daughter, convincing her that she is right in her accusations. She is an angel and he is a demon. Of course, we want to be supported, pitied, and somehow the support makes us feel better. But look what comes of it...
Husband for you- a loved one, you chose him, created your own family with him. Who is he to your mother? Stranger! No, and who stole her only natural daughter. Don’t rush to judge your mother - this is a normal attitude towards your son-in-law, because in essence it is what it is. And now you're investing to my own mother in her hands a sword with which she will gladly cut off the head of your marriage. Beliefs about the imperfection of your spouse will begin to acquire more and more threatening proportions, and, in the end, you will believe in your own sacrifice and your husband’s incessant sins. What to do? Be sure to go see your mom! No one can caress and caress you like the dearest person! Talk to her, but not about problems with your husband. For her, may everything always be fine with you. Just enjoy her support, the warmth of her hands, and the kindness of her mother’s heart. That's enough. And you will be confident that even if the whole world collapses, there will be someone to console you and take pity on you.
Right They say: “From the outside you don’t know better, from the outside you’re more envious.” And yet, we often look for some kind of sensible advice from the outside to solve an internal problem. How often do you find really sensible advice in the opinions of your friends? They are more likely to add fuel to the fire than to advise something to benefit your relationship. No, not all friends are bad and envious, that’s not the point. They just hear exclusively your opinion about the current situation. And your opinion is based on emotions, moreover, negative ones, and in your favor. At best, your friend will support you in your negativity, at worst, she will help the problem worsen: “Does he often go on business trips? He’s probably cheating! And how do you put up with it?”
Want consult- go to a psychologist. Professional advice on the topic of interpersonal relationships, taming one’s own phobias, solving family problems - this is just the part of psychologists. Firstly, a psychologist is an outsider, privy to the essence of the problem, and not to dirty gossip and gossip. And secondly, he will try to help solve the problem based on the collected facts and his own professional analysis, and not hiss enviously: “Leave him, I told you a long time ago, be alone like me.”
Do you want to be alone? Discuss yours family life with others.
Wash dirty linen in public wash/wash dirty linen in public Razg. Usually from negative. Talk about quarrels and troubles occurring between loved ones. With noun with value faces: son, friend... doesn't wash dirty linen in public.
Fulfilling the duty of a noble heart, she speaks of us with respect and modesty... she reproaches us carefully, does not wash dirty linen in public. (A. Pushkin.)
He [Khlopakov] is careful, he doesn’t wash dirty linen in public, he won’t say a bad word about anyone. (I. Turgenev.)
...But speak quickly - we won’t wash dirty linen in public... What was said died within me. (P. Melnikov-Pechersky.)
Educational phraseological dictionary. - M.: AST. E. A. Bystrova, A. P. Okuneva, N. M. Shansky. 1997 .
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Wash dirty linen in public
wash dirty linen in public- See gossip... Dictionary of Russian synonyms and similar expressions. under. ed. N. Abramova, M.: Russian Dictionaries, 1999. wash dirty linen in public, don’t make a secret, take it out into the street, divulge, tell, gossip... Synonym dictionary
WASHING DIRTY OUT OF PUBLIC
Wash dirty linen in public- Razg. Disclose what l. secrets, talk about quarrels, troubles occurring between close people and relatives. FSRY, 446; BMS 1998, 543; BTS, 176; FM 2002, 402; Yanin 2003, 78; Mokienko 1990, 95; SHZF 2001, 51; ZS 1996, 67 ...
Take out the noise from the hut- Psk. Disapproved Disclose information regarding internal strife, quarrels, and troubles. /i> Noise, rubbish, garbage. SPP 2001, 82 ... Big dictionary Russian sayings
Take your dirty linen out of the door- Sib. The same as washing dirty linen in public. FSS, 37... Large dictionary of Russian sayings
Wash dirty linen in public- SOR, a (u), m. Small dry waste, small garbage. Sweep with. Dictionary Ozhegova. S.I. Ozhegov, N.Yu. Shvedova. 1949 1992 … Ozhegov's Explanatory Dictionary
wash dirty linen in public- disclose troubles, quarrels that concern only a narrow circle of people. The expression is usually used with negation as a call not to disclose the details of such dirty laundry (there is no need to wash dirty linen in public). The expression is associated with the ancient custom of not taking out the trash... ... Phraseology Guide
Wash dirty linen in public- WASHING DIRTY OUT OF PUBLIC. TAKE THE DIRTY OUT OF PUBLIC. Razg. 1. Disclose quarrels, squabbles, squabbles that occurred in the family or between close people. It did not escape Naumovna’s eyes that something was wrong between her daughter-in-law and Trofim, although they hid it. Guess... Phraseological Dictionary of the Russian Literary Language
WASH YOUR DIRTY OUT OF PUBLIC- who Disclose information about which people. troubles that concern a narrow circle of people and are therefore hidden from outsiders. This refers to family quarrels, squabbles, troubles, etc., as well as conflicts in a group of people united by something. common to... ... Phraseological Dictionary of the Russian Language
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- Shadows of the Past Resentment, Kuzin V.. In the lives of many Christians, grievances are an integral part. Sometimes we don’t want to accept that resentment has built a nest of pain in our heart. We don’t want to wash dirty linen in public, we don’t...